Faith, hope and love are the three most valued virtues to have in the Catholic tradition. In these past few months, I am more aware that God has given me a special gift of faith. I often feel drawn to spending time in silence in a church's prayer room or to go for an occasional weekday mass.
And a capacity to love too, especially after Ben's death. I know that Ben has opened my heart to be loved and to love in a romantic way. Many have reminded me that this love will not die, but lives on. I realised too that this love is meant to grow and to be shared with others.
Well, about hope-that is a tough one for me. I feel that I have been more of a pessimist than optimist as I am aware that I send lots of negative messages to myself e.g. Karen can't do this, she can't do that because she is not good enough. (Good enough for who, I wonder? :-) Probably for myself.)
From the Bible, St Paul's Letter to the Romans, Chapter 5: 3-5
Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
These verses really helped me these past months to continue living my life. These months have been especially tough at work too. I told God- "So this is great. You take away the love of my life and now it is so darn tough and stressful at work. What else is coming?" On hindsight, keeping focused at work has helped me sharpen my communication skills and other areas which I always have wanted to grow in.
One of the more exciting activities that I participated in is a church art exhibition in October. It was such a wonderful experience helping to plan it, getting my art pieces ready and meeting friends and artists. Recently, I found out that one of Ben's closest buddy went too without telling me and I was elated. The support has been overwhelming! I am truly blessed and grateful. :-)
Some of my girlfriends gave me a beautiful bouquet of flowers at the exhibition opening! I was thrilled! I remembered telling God after Ben's death- I do not think I will receive flowers like that anymore as he gave me a beautiful bouquet of roses this Valentine's Day.
(Thank you dear sisters! You made my day with the flowers and your beautiful presence!)
And I got more flowers- roses too!
Here is a photo from Ben's blog which reminds me about hope. A dear friend reminded me that Ben's purpose and mission on this earth is completed and that he taught me all he needed in this short time. I know he still speaks to me in surprising ways and I feel his spirit ever closer to me now than before.
I was reminded of this photo on his blog a few days back as I was sitting in a taxi and saw the words etched in its rear mirror. I am still wondering if that's Ben's hand. :-P Looks like to me. :-)
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"One must be able to differentiate between hope and expectation: for hope is never disappointed, and ever self-renewing; expectation, on the other hand, demands fulfillment, or else despairs.
From: http://pedaldamnit.blogspot.com/2006/05/el-retiro-san-inigo-ride.html
I pray for more hope and peace in my life.
And especially for those who are experiencing difficult moments due to the sudden loss of a loved one.